Ali Fedotowsky Confesses Motherhood Struggles

Posted by Jeanne on July 13, 2017

Being a mother is hard. It’s not something that anyone can truly understand until they’ve gone through it. It looks like former Bachelorette star, Ali Fedotowsky, understands the struggle all too well these days.

Ali Fedotowsky

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In the newest edition of Fit Pregnancy & Baby, Fedotowsky opened up about what it’s been like since she and her husband, Kevin Manno, welcomed their first child, Molly, a year ago.

Fedotowsky explained, “for the first eight months of Molly’s life, we never had anyone else watch her — not even a family member. After months of no breaks and little sleep, I legit had a mental breakdown. I remember I was in our kitchen, crying to Kevin on the phone, saying, ‘I can’t do this anymore. I need help.’ I was holding Molly. She was screaming. I was screaming. It was like out of a movie. I lost my mind.”

Truth be told, eight months of doing anything uninterrupted can be difficult, nevermind caring for a newborn!

As is the case for many new parents, Fedotowsky and Manno do struggle to make their own relationship as a couple (not just parents!) a priority. The 32-year-old reality star revealed, “we need to make more time for ourselves and schedule more date nights. Once, when Kevin’s brother babysat, we went to dinner and spent the first hour watching videos of Molly on our phones, saying, ‘Look at how cute she is!’ I’m not even kidding. Finally we said, ‘Do you realize what we’re doing? We need to put our phones away!’ But Molly is the great love of our lives. And we’re OK with that.”

It’s interesting because she really brings attention to a strange thing in our society. There are people who mock parents for centering their focus on their child. Sure, it’s a little weird to be obsessive about a teenager but it’s completely normal to be consumed with a baby or toddler. Isn’t that what a new parent should be concerned with? After all, that young phase lasts for so little time. Why not enjoy it while you can?

Will Molly be sharing the attention with a sibling any time soon? Fedotowsky explained, “we definitely want to have a second baby. We’ve always said two. I don’t know if it gets harder when a second child comes into the mix. If it does, please help me. A lot of people say it actually gets easier because the children keep each other company. I hope that’s the case, because, if not, I’m in big trouble.”

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